Do I Need a Change?Oct 15, 2020
As we approach the end of 2020, many individuals have spent these last few months in quarantine reflecting on their life priorities and where they see themselves as 2021 comes into view. Questions such as, “what do I really want from my job”, “am I getting enough satisfaction from my day”, and “am I prepared for a major life event such as the loss of my job” play over and over like a broken record.
One simple question seems to be the loudest. Do I need a change?
Although it may seem like a rather simple question, the answer is definitely more complicated. Change can be scary. Change can be stressful. Why do we fear change? For many, it’s a little bit of the uncertainty it brings and the doubt of if you’re making the right decision at the right time. And if you have a family, change can bring additional stress of how it could affect them. So how do we know if it’s time for a change?
* Do I want to change more than I want to remain the same?
* What’s driving me to want this change?
* If I make this change, will it change my level of happiness?
* How do I define happiness? ie. family, time, dancing, money
Instituting change can be quite challenging. So how can you go about deciding if a much-desired change is needed? Take these action steps to help you decide if a change reset is needed:
- Ensure you have a clear understanding of what you’d like to change about your life. Is it your job? Initiating or ending a relationship? Moving to a place that fits you better? Write down in a sentence or two what change you seek. Be specific.
- Know why you want the change. Being aware of your reasons for change will deepen your understanding of yourself and what you wish for your future. It can also help you tweak what it is you truly wish to accomplish. Having clarity now pays off later.
- Explore realistic options for how to bring on the change. What do you need to do to make it happen?
- Making a desired change often involves a step-by-step process rather than one big “jump.”
- Focus on making one change at a time. Concentrate your energies on only one task. This will increase your chances of being successful. When you see that you can achieve one change, you’ll gain confidence in making other changes.
- Find your confidence. When was the last time you did something you were really proud of? Gather your self-assurance and ignite your efforts to begin making changes.
- Use positive self-talk. Tell yourself that you know you can create the life you want - one step at a time. Words are powerful. Think about the words you use to describe yourself. Make sure those words are positive, strong, and fearless!
- Discuss your wishes with your significant other. It’s important that you discuss your desired changes with your partner and that both of you devise an agreeable plan to move forward together.
- Refuse to let anyone or anything stop you. When it comes to making an important life change, those around you might disagree with your decision to alter your life.
- Listen carefully to the opinions of your loved ones. Then, proceed ahead on your well-planned course, taking their ideas into consideration if you found them useful.
- Garner support. Surround yourself with supportive people who will provide encouragement to you in your quest for change. Join a support group or club with members who are interested in the change you’re working on (Sweet But Fearless!). Group support can be incredibly powerful.
- Find a great mentor. When you consult with others who have already achieved what you’re hoping to accomplish, it will galvanize you in your efforts to change. It’s wonderful to have direct contact with someone who’s done what you’re striving to do.
- For the fastest results, Zoom, Skype or go old-fashioned and pick up the phone to talk with your mentor
Making changes in life can be taxing, yet very rewarding. When you discover that you can create the life you deserve by making some adjustments here and there, you can move closer toward your goals in life with greater passion and confidence. You will be more likely to go the distance when you’re doing something for yourself, something that moves you forward to that change you decided you needed to make.
Good luck! And let us know about your challenges and your successes!